For the anon <3
I’ve gotten a lot of messages from people who say they don’t know what ‘normal eating’ is and they don’t know where to draw the line. So this is a sample of the kind of food plan my dietitian gave me to maintain my weight at about 50 kgs (i’m 167cm tall) and this is without exercise.
1/4 cup of oats
half a cup of milk
1 serve of fruit (punnet of strawberries/ blueberries, 1 apple, 1 banana or whatever another serve of your choice)
a glass of fruit juice
A cheese sandwich
and something on the side (a couple of biscuits, a row of chocolate, some fruit, a beverage etc)
should be two things
cheese and crackers
jelly and ice cream
milk and cookies
A stir fry with rice, vegetables and meat
don’t discount dessert, it’s just as important as the other meals (we actually need up to three fat serves per day for healthy brain function)
A chocolate bar
some ice cream
This is just a rough meal plan, of course feel free to add anything! If you’re still hungry don’t be afraid to add an extra snack in or have 2 sandwiches instead of one, it won’t harm you! Especially if you exercise a lot, you will need to add in extra to keep your energy up! Like I said, this is just my plan at the moment as I don’t do any extra exercise right now, if I was i would have two sandwiches for lunch and add in one or two extra snacks at least. A bigger dinner would probably be needed as well!
I hope this helps you guys!
<3 <3 xx
Thank you so much for this message, you really don’t know how great it is to get this kind of feedback and encouragement!
I’m loving your view on the whole situation and i’m so glad that you feel the same as I do!
Usually I reply privately to these sorts of messages but I’m going to post this just because I think my followers you should read what you have to say!
Thank you again so much <3
thank you lovely! I am trying, i’m going to do it this time, i’ve written it down and everything, so no going back now! ahaha
i feel so much better than I did before, you’re right, if you compare me now to me in december you’d think we were two completely different people personality-wise, and i much prefer this happier version of me!!
thanks again beautiful :) xx
sweetie, you are absolutely not stupid! I know you don’t think you’re anorexic, but you’re definitely showing a lot of warning signs… remember you don’t have to be underweight or anything to be anorexic.
You’re doing exactly what I did, I could never put anything in my mouth without checking the calories first and I used to record everything to make sure I stayed under a certain amount of calories a day. You have to know 1200 calories a day is definitely not enough! I don’t know how old you are, but especially if you’re a teenager, you don’t understand how many calories you’re burning just sitting down! because you’re growing all the time, maybe not just in height but everything inside you will still be developing until your early 20s, this is the time that you really need all the protein and calcium you can get!!
I know exactly how you feel though, I remember once my mum and dad made me eat dessert when we went out to dinner and I was so upset, I threw a tantrum and just sat there being sour and not enjoying myself. Which is so stupid because it was a happy occasion, i was catching up with my amazing brother who i hadn’t seen in over a year, it was a nice place to be, and the dessert was delicious! You just have to remember all the reasons you have to be happy, having a treat now and then should be one of them! not something to bring you down!
Right now i’m on 2200 calories a day, i’m 15 and about 170 cm and just eating that i’m maintaining 49kgs (and trust me, i am not at all sporty, i’m not allowed to go out and exercise right now anyway) which is still pretty underweight, so on 1200 calories you will be losing weight a lot faster than can be healthy. You’ll also be losing it from tissue that will be breaking down because you’re not getting enough protein, so it might not even look like you are to you, remember that though because otherwise you might be tempted to drop more.
I think maybe you should get some help, the best thing you can do is talk to someone you trust and maybe even go to a nutritionalist. That’s what I did, she made up a program for me with some meal suggestions and gave me an idea of how much i should eat in a day. I remember when i first saw it i was so shocked! it looks like so much, but that’s how much i need (it’s awesome ;) )
i really hope you can overcome this! i feel so terrible that you’re going through this before it really takes hold! think about it this way, i lost my period, grew extra hair on my arms, legs, tummy, back even, the hair on my head started falling out, i got bruises all over from where my bones stuck out and i was exhausted all the time. it’s not at all glamorous, you’re much much better off being healthy and curvy than being like that!!
hope this helps gorgeous, i’m always here for anything you need <3 xx
Wow, honestly I’m not even sure. I don’t think there was ever so much a ‘moment’ as just a long learning process. The reason I started was because my parents made me, they’d been trying to get me to do something about it for a while but then eventually they put their foot down and said that if I didn’t put some weight on they were cancelling the dance and drama tour to New York and LA with my school and there were other consequences too.
There have been so many things that have influenced me, at first I thought everyone was telling me I was skinny because they could see how much weight I’d lost, and compared to that I did look skinny, but I never really believed that I was as skinny as people were making out. (most of the people commenting were girls and you know how they can give out compliments without actually meaning it at all). Then randoms started commenting on it as well… I was in a school play and even my friend’s parents started going up to mine and asking them if I was okay. Same with my aunties and uncles etc. So I started to realise that maybe I was thinner than I thought.
So I started eating a little more, but I was still losing weight and that shocked me. So I ate more and more and eventually I realised just how much I could eat without actually even putting on weight, and I stopped being so afraid of food. And as I began to eat normally again my vision cleared, I started to see what everyone else was seeing and I realised that I really didn’t like it, it looked really ugly. My bones stuck out and I looked like a bobble head haha, i actually had bruises on my back from where my bones had dug into my skin when I sat down. when i realised all this it kind of fixed me up a bit, and I feel so so so much better now for taking care of myself. I’m still pretty thin, people still make comments, but i’ve stopped taking them as compliments now. I don’t like people noticing me for that kind of thing, it really is my personality that counts!
anyway apart from all that there are tons of other things, i lost my period, my hair started falling out, i was exhausted all the time, it was disgusting and i just got so tired of feeling miserable all the time!
please if you’re going through anorexia, try and do something about it! even just taking the smallest step like opening up to a friend or family member can make all the difference! it’s such a horrible experience, i wouldn’t wish it on anybody and you definitely don’t deserve it. Or if this is for a friend, please encourage them to seek help, they probably won’t want to hear it but it’s so important that you persist! if my friends and family had given up on me i could so easily be dead right now, it’s so scary :/
i hope i helped a little, i’m sorry for writing so much! i get a bit carried away ahahah xx
It’s all about the waist to hip ratio, guys prefer curvier girls because they are better able to have children.
It sounds weird, but it’s a biological study i’m taking, guys don’t even know that’s why they like it, it’s so weird. But cool!
btw i’m not saying that girls who are naturally skinny are in any way unattractive, i hate when people give skinny girls shit when they’re eating habits are perfectly healthy! Apparently there’s a way of picking up on that too, if it’s natural. Idk i just started this study, but it’s so interesting!!
Not giving a fuck about how many calories you eat.
I just set my own record and ate 6 pop tarts for dessert alone…
Cos I’m trying to get over an eating disorder so I’m actually supposed to be gaining weight at the moment, and my parents go off their rocker at me everytime i lose weight :S Its my fault that they don’t trust me, but it sucks cos I honestly don’t even know how it happened this time! :/
idk, i’ve always had a really bad relationship with food.
I used to be quite chubby as a kid, then for a while when i was about 12 i lost a lot of weight and even starved myself a bit. But it really became an issue when i was about 14/ 15
well most of what I know comes from my own personal experience. I know how I felt when I was sick. Plus i’ve talked to doctors and a nutritionalist and stuff so i guess i’ve accumulated a lot of sources ahaha